I am 5'9" and weigh 180 and am male the large fits perfectly.
The XXL fits better on the thigh but if you want more hip go with the XXXL...and nylons will give you support to hold the extra room around the thigh..I have 3 sizes from XL to XXXL and depending on what I wear I choose the best size.
Im 6'1' 190 lbs. 36 inch waste, average build. I got the xl. It was so loose that im planng o ordering the med these undergarments have alot of stretch. But becareful pulling them up. First couple times I could hear threads popping. Even thogh i was loose. Really soft shear fabric wich is nice. Just dont put them on to fast.
I’m like a 40 waist and ordered the xxl I think and it was kind of big